How do you live with someone who acts like this? Do you know anyone like her?

My sister and I are polar opposites she is very loud outgoing and dramatic while I am shy quiet and down to earth. I tried being friends with her at one point, she knew I was having trouble making friends so she introduced me to some of hers which was really nice of her but when she thought that they liked me better than her she wouldnt let me hangout with them anymore. She is always fighting with my parents which can get really annoying to have to listen to all the time. She is loud in general and is always singing/guitar/piano because she want to be a pro musician and whenever someone gets annoyed by her she thinks that we dont support her. She doesn't care if anyone else is annoyed and she just belts it out throught the whole house. She always complains about people being self centered or conrolling. My mom had asked her to blow out a candle in her room beause she didnt want my sister catching the house on fire and she said "no cuz now its just a control issue". And apparently when my bf is over he "controlls" the whole entire house when actually my sister just doesnt want to be in the same room is us and if we are in a certain room we are "controlling" it. She has on occasion gotten pissed and thrown stuff at me and even my bf, she has dumped coffee on me for rolling my eyes at a fight she was having with my mom. She is angry because she thinks I dont get punished for bad behavior when I actually dont really do anything to get in trouble at all. A few weeks ago she wouldnt stop singing at the top of her lungs and I told her to shut up and quit being loud all the time then she started cussing me out calling me a f***ing self centered b*** and I snapped and got into a physical fight with her (I know it was wrong but that was a beating 10 yrs in the making). She was pretty pleased with herself though because I got grounded finaly for the first time in my life. Today she was wearing my boots and I asked her if they were mine and she said yes so I rolled my eyes becuase its really annoying when she uses my stuff then she yelled at me saying I could just ask her to take them off and she would. 10 mins went by and she is still wearing them so I asked if she could please take them off and she said I was overreacting and then she wore them out to go hang with her friends. I mean I can't even stand to be around her my parents say that im being mean for avoiding her and not talking to her but I just can't take it anymore I dont wanna waste my time with her. She doesn't even get it... in her head she just twists things around I dont even think she realizes why I dont like her. How do I live with her????? do you know anyone like this?